“Who, me?!” I used to be the queen of taking things personally. I’d try to play it off like everything was fine, but inside it would eat at me. Mantras such as “Am I good enough?” or “Do they like me?” would play on repeat.
Taking things personally is one of those classic human behaviors that really doesn’t do much to help us these days. We are wired to strive for being liked and included, and we certainly don’t want to be singled out.
In fact, being seen as an outcast is one of the deepest fears we hold as humans.
Yet, often when we take things personally, it has nothing to do with us. Rather, it has everything to do with the other person or perhaps it challenges a core belief about ourselves. When we allow ourselves to get worked up by the judgments of others, we allow them to steal our joy and peace.
Of course, not taking things personally is easier said than done. I can personally vouch for that. However, it is possible to stop the accusations or judgments from holding you hostage. It is possible to maintain your power, maintain your peace, and even maintain your relationship with the other person.
In today’s video, I share my experiences with taking things personally and some of the initial steps I have taken in order to feel less impacted by what others think. I hope that perhaps the musings in today’s video can help you too.